We had to post this to show why men routinely get a raw deal when it comes to family matters. To set this scenario, we had responded to a woman’s Facebook post telling men they need to be fathers to their children even if they aren’t getting along with the mothers of their children. We mentioned that women need to shoulder the blame sometimes because there are plenty of fathers who desperately want relationships with their children, but who are purposely run out of their children’s lives by the mothers. We also mentioned that simply telling men to ‘man up’ is not a sufficient remedy. To that commentary, we got the angry response below from a ‘man’ named Avery. His response typifies why things never change. Our response to Avery is posted below his comments.
AVERY’S‘ ANGRY COMMENTS TO US:
I dont know who you are, and neither do i care. But before you add anymore of my family members you need to come CORRECT. You cant stand up for “baby daddies” who dont take care of there responsibilities. A father consist of WAY more than every other weekend visit. A father buys, diapers, wipes, milk and clothes without being made to do so. A father is there for his child even when him and the mother disagree. A father puts his childs needs before himself. So again COME CORRECT. I dont know who you are trying to be invisible Victims group. But then again who cares.
OUR RESPONSE TO AVERY:
Avery, you are typical. You have those same repetitive sayings down pat, “Come correct,’ ‘Baby daddies,’ ‘a father is there for his child even when him and the mother disagree.’ Those quotes have been spat out with such frequency that they flow from the mouth without much thought, and without ever listening to the voices of everyone involved in these situations. No one, especially not anyone here, is denying the importance of fathers in the lives of their children. But when will the world ever pause to consider the plight of men who BEG to see, and have a relationship, with their children, far beyond the weekend visits and occasional phone calls, and purchasing of diapers, but are prevented from doing so by the mothers of their children, who purposely try to sever those father-child relationships.
Men all around the world are fighting this fight everyday. So, would you be so naive as to say these tragedies don’t exist on a large scale? Come to think of it, you probably would because you don’t, or won’t, see it. Many people choose to turn a blind eye to this heinous, but all too real, scenario. These grotesque assaults on fathers’ rights seems to only matter to the men, and the families of those men, who are being denied relationships with their children.
Where your anger towards me, or Invisible Victims, stems from, is a mystery to me. To admit one type of real scenario exist (men being denied relationships with their children), in no way negates another type of real scenario (men who don’t want a relationship), anymore than the FACT that men are often falsely accused of sexual assault, would ever negate the FACT that there are real sexual assaults occurring everyday. And you know what? The falsely accused man, and the actual assault victim, are both victims. To admit there can be a different type of victim in a different type of scenario, is a reality that these mickey mouse quotes people like to sling around, don’t even begin to address.
So yes, there are victims out there, Invisible Victims, who the general public refuses to see as victims, simply because of gender. And all your shallow thoughts, your lack of keen insight, your pre-programmed, always-blame-the-guy sayings, and your lack of empathy for ALL victims, is sad. And while you’re spouting off at the mouth, telling men they need to be fathers to their children, just realize there are millions of men around the world, crying their hearts out, begging to do just that.
As you clearly professed in your opening line, you don’t know who we are, “and neither do (you) care.” That’s a shame. However, your closing lines, ” I dont know who you are trying to be invisible Victims group. But then again who cares,” is just plain pitiful. I’ll tell you who cares: the children who are denied meaningful relationships with their fathers; the fathers who are denied meaningful relationships with their children; and the family members who love those victimized men and their children.
I truly hope you are never victimized in the manner that you so readily dismiss; I hope you develop greater intuitiveness, and learn to see the victims which are often right in front of your face, regardless of their gender; I hope someday you gain the courage to wade into the deeper end of the pool. I hope you learn to…COME CORRECT.
P.S. Regarding your family members, if they want to remain blind like you, they can easily deny friend request. But if they have sons, fathers, brothers, other male relatives, or male friends, they care about, then simply denying that they can also be victims, is doing them a disservice. If they don’t listen now, it may be too late when they are actually victimized.
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