Do you know an Invisible Victim? Maybe..maybe not? I guess you need to figure out what an Invisible Victim is before you answer that question. An Invisible Victim can be one of many things:
- A male who has been falsely accused of a sexual crime.
- A male who has gotten suspended from school, lost his job, reputation, or part of his soul as a result of a false allegation.
- A male who is suffering through a degrading, verbally and/or physically abusive relationship.
- A male who has been falsely accused of physical violence against a female.
- A male who has been arrested because he defended himself against a violent female.
- A male who has suffered the wrath of a jealous, vindictive ex.
- A father who has restricted access to his children, because the mother of the children uses her ‘motherly’ power position as a tool for revenge.
- A male who has suffered depression, anxiety, or extreme emotional distress, from being deprived of his children, of from enduring abusive from an abusive female.
- A father who was treated unfairly by the courts in a divorce/child custody battle
- A male who has been raped by a female but no one listened.
- A male who is paying child support to woman who trapped him, or who was impregnated when she sexually assaulted him through intoxication, or through coercion
- Your son, your father, your brother, your grandfather, your uncle, your friend, or any other guy you know who has been dismissed by the world, which has turned a deaf ear to him, thus rendering him invisible.
There isn’t a less-sympathetic victim on the planet than a male victim. And yes, males can be victims. There are plenty of males, of all ages, in every strata of society, who are dealing with some of the issues mentioned above. Unfortunately, it’s rare that a male is given the benefit of the doubt in any of these gender-related conflicts. That’s not to say that a female should be frowned upon or dismissed when conflict or allegations arise, but it seems pertinent that we work towards a system which doesn’t drag a potentially-innocent man through the mud. For instance, if a woman brings forth a sexual-assult allegation against a man, it ‘must’ be investigated…it must be. Males understand that, because that female could be their daughter, their mother, their sister, etc. But it must also be understood that females are human, and like other humans, they often lie for a variety of reasons. Males lie, females lie, adults lie, children lie…PEOPLE LIE. Some lies are simple; some are life altering. It’s the life-altering lies of which we must be conscious.
People lie because they are scared; people lie because they are angry; people lie because they are embarrased or humiliated; people lie because they want attention. Females are not exempted from lying. It is with this fact that we must seek a better way to treat males when it comes to accusations. We can’t just throw them in the fire and watch them burn, then try to snuff out the fire and send them on their way when we find out they’ve done no wrong. Because when it is all said and done, you can put out the fire but you can’t necessarily heal the burns. The burn is forever.
So let’s see what we can do to help the Invisible Victims, one of those segments of society with no sympathy or public support. If you are an Invisible Victim or know an Invisible Victim, let us know. Post a message, suggestion, gripe, or anything else you feel would be valuable. I want to hear from men and women, from both sides of the debate. Without engaging each other, and without having competent, worthwhile discussions, we will never move forward. Let’s move forward!
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